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My Coming Out: Rachel Kramer Bussel

October 11, 2006

chat_bussel_320x240.jpgRachel Kramer Bussel is a sex columnist (the “Lusty Lady” column for the Village Voice) and erotica author. Her most recent collection, Caught Looking: Erotic Tales of Voyeurs and Exhibitionists was just published by Cleis Press. Visit her online here.

In a rather brash, confrontation style that now makes me cringe to recall, I came out as bisexual to my parents via the very 90s, very passive-aggressive form known as the ‘zine. As in, I mailed my little ‘zine (named “I'm Not Waiting,” after a Sleater-Kinney song), to them and waited to see what they'd say. Which turned out to be not much.

I don't think either of them were shocked, nor all that interested. It was a very anti-climactic coming out. And actually, I didn't come out as "bisexual" per se at the time, because I found the phrase too binary and oppressive (something I duly ranted about).

Since then, I’ve mellowed out quite a bit, and am more than happy to settle on that merrily subversive term known as "queer."

 

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Samantha wrote:

Two words: purple slip.

yum.

posted at October 11, 2006 11:56 AM

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