Laura what can I do as a young 24-year-old professional guy to be more fabulously glamorous? I really vibed with your asthetic. How would Laura dress a young (and handsome) gentleman bon vivant?
Colin, New York, New York

What makes me so fabulously glamorous is the fact that I celebrate the things in life tat I really enjoy. Whether it’s lipstick, or getting dressed, or having a Halloween party, I just tend to go all out -- above and beyond the call of duty on the things that I love. And what happens is, it just becomes fabulous. When you live life that way, when you really celebrate things, as opposed to, “Now its Halloween.” So figure out the things that really get you excited, that really make you happy and celebrate them to an outrageous degree. And you’ll be fabulous.

Here's my question: Do you have any advice for a couple going through a long dry spell in regards to their sex life? My boyfriend and I have been together about 14 years and lived together about 12. We are both in our early 40s. And we've stopped having sex.
Mike in Atlanta, Georgia

I've been thinking that I'd like to move to a foreign country, and start my life over as someone else. Not because I'm on the run, but because I'm just bored with my life. Where would you start?
Scott in Susanville, Nevada

You can’t run away from yourself. And this is clearly a case of thinking that a different time or place is going to make you a different person and it just doesn’t happen that way. If it were me, I would take a good long introspective look into your own soul, and find out what it is that makes you happy. It’s not about place or time, it’s about you know, looking inward and not outward.

I mean, Paris is good, but if you’re not happy in Paris, Texas. You’re not going to be happy in Paris, France.

Hi Laura. What would you do if you were gay and in high school and couldn't tell anyone?
Kelly in Ohio

God. This is a really important question. As a mother of soon-to-be five boys, this is the thing that I fear the most. I have no problem with any of my children being gay, but I really am scared about the difficulty of the teenage years and of my boys potentially finding themselves in a position where they can’t express their identity.

And my children, they won’t be in that position, at least not in my house. But I don’t know how to answer this question because this is something I fear for my own potentially gay children. What their lives will be in the world that I’m not in charge of.

I guess I’d say, “High tail it to a coast, for God’s sake.” (I’m kidding.)

I asked Zac, one of my buddies at OUTzone, for a little help here. And we talked about it for quite a while. We’ve agreed that you should know that the following things are true:

1. You’re not the only gay person there.
2. You have to trust that people will love you for who you are and not your sexual orientation.
3. This is only for now. If you don’t feel that you are safe coming out of the closet, it isn’t the best time to do so. But there will be a time in the not-so-distant future, when you’re going to be amazed at how strong you’ve become because of what you’re living through right now.
4. There are places where you can go and talk to somebody about it. There’s an internet now, and while there are a lot of dangers in lurking in certain places, there are also a lot of resources. So gere is a list we’ve put together for you:

The Bonus Round Gay Youth Page
Your Family Friends and Neighbors
Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays
About.com's section on "Coming Out Resources"

Bad Mommy is doing awesome. Let me just say I love having my gay posse around. From those boys over at Rungay to you bunch here at OUTzone, it’s good to have y'all watching my back.

OUTzone: Awesome. So let’s jump in to these questions. Some of them came from the boards this week. Some have come in through the viewer email. And the first one is from Katie.

I know this one! And I really hope that she’ll write back in soon with an update.

OUTzone: She writes, "My boyfriend of five years is about three days away from telling me that he’s gay. I know he has a crush on this guy in our building, and they spend a lot of time smoking pot together. I guess I’m okay with the gay part, but do I break up with him before or after he tells me? Because there’s a very slim chance that I’m wrong."

This is a gut feeling thing. As I’ve grown older, I’ve learned that you can’t ignore your gut. I think postponing the inevitable is never a healthy thing. What I would do is try to turn the relationship back into a friendship. And though it’s generally hard to take steps backward this way, I don't see any other choice at the moment. You have to go with your gut. And write back in and tell us how it goes.

OUTzone: This one came into the viewer email from Chad, who writes: “My boyfriend and I are going home to his parents' house for Christmas. His parents don’t yet know that he’s gay. We’ve been together for three years. What would Laura do?”

I think that this is probably... I have friends who came out to their parents where the parents wouldn’t speak to them for five years. And I have friends who came out to their parents and the parents said, “What are you talking about, we’ve known this since you were two.”

I don’t think it’s fair if they’re going together for him to announce his sexual orientation. I think that is something the son has to give his parents a lttle respect in regards to. The parents have a right to have a reaction. And having a guest in the house, it just doesn’t seem like the right time.

If the couple is going and not intending to mention anything to the parents, just as buddies -- I don’t know.

I think people underestimate their parents, who usually have a pretty good sense of their children’s orientation. It’s tough, because even if the parents really don’t know, this child needs to go on his own and talk to his parents before he brings home, you know, hard evidence. Or an outsider.

I don’t know, it seems to me that some time before they show up for Christmas, they should have a conversation.

OUTzone: Okay. This next one is from Cath, who writes, "My friend and I have this other friend, we’ll call her Betsy. We used to be somewhat of a trio. But now -- Betsy has been mean and neglectful lately and we are sick of putting all the work into this friendship. We want to “break up” with her. But we have to see her all the time. What would you do?

Well. It sounds like Betsy is already branching off on her own. It sounds to me like she’s taken care of the situation for you. So basically, she’s made her bed, and at this point, she needs to lie in it. If it were me, I would just carry on with my activities and decide later whether I want to let her back into the fold.

I think it’s actually healthy that friends sort of branch out temporarily and meet other people, and then later come back to their old friends. I don’t see any harm in that. It’s nice to hear new points of view and get new perspectives on life from people other than just the ones you spend time with. So I don’t think these girls should hold it against Betsy, but yet, they shouldn’t really dwell on it themselves, they just need to carry on with their own activities.

OUTzone: Thanks Laura. We're sure OUTzone readers appreciate the words of wisdom. More next week...

I’m looking forward to it.

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